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Tuesdays Torch week 469

Tuesday’s Torch

01/30/18

By: Tim Sader

“So the last will be first, and the first will be last.” (Matthew 20:16)

Sammy and my first Christmas after knowing eachother we exchanged gifts as a token that our developing relationship was worth a price. We realize now that the marriage we share is one of the greatest gifts the Lord has blessed us with. After the holidays we wanted one thing for the New Year and that was to meet each other in person. This was quite difficult considering Sammy hadn’t told many people about what was developing between us. The first person she told about us was her twin sister Amanda and after we came up with a date they made arrangements to get her to where we would meet. Her sister was busy the day we picked so her girlfriend Alicia was the one who brought Sammy to meet me. My mom had known about us for a while longer so she was the one who brought me to the Mellow Mushroom in Colombia, SC. Our new van was not finished being modified for me so we had to pray our big old blue van could make it. After getting rear-ended on the interstate we didn’t go far from home because we didn’t want to break down. On the day of our date I put on my rarely worn jeans, a tee-shirt my friend gave me from his band and a warm camo vest since it was cold that day. After getting ready we got loaded up in the van and headed out for my new adventure. Surprisingly the van did really well when we got out onto the open road. We found the restaurant but rode past it since we were early. We drove a couple miles up the road but after we turned around we hit a big bump in the road and my head fell backwards off of my head rest. Mom looked back in the mirror and I looked like my head was missing and she couldn’t help me until we could get off the road. Finally we made it back to the restaurant and went in; there was no seating left on the ground level but plenty upstairs. I was thinking how are we going to get two wheelchairs up there but to my surprise they had an elevator. When I got up there they took me to a private room and I noticed Sammy hadn’t arrived yet. Soon after getting there I heard her approaching and when I set my eyes on her the first time I knew this was the beginning of so much more.

After introductions since we were there with drivers who we are forever grateful to; we started looking at the menu. I had never been there before but I figured pizza would be easy enough so we decided on some Mediterranean chicken pizza and a couple salads. While we waited conversation was ok, I told them about almost losing my head and they told me their plans to pick up a dog. After the pizza arrived they put it on a stand so Sammy and I had to sneak peaks around or above it to see eachother. During our tasty lunch there were a few quiet moments while we looked in each other’s eyes but they never lasted long. It was day one together but I was thinking about what was coming in the future for us. Though this was a first date I wanted it to be the last first date because I felt that she could be the one perfect match for me. She may have shown up last that day but from that day forward she would be the first thing on my mind as I would be her first thought too. This is a lot like the way God wants us to be in all of our interactions with others. Those who think they are first will be last and those who humble themselves by being last will be first. To become the greatest we must first be the least by serving others and being salves to their needs. Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for us all (Mt. 20:26-28). To be first we must be willing to give up on our own agenda sacrificing our lives, blood, sweat, tears, time and money as a way to serve others. He expects this if indeed we want to be His disciple (Mk. 9:35). After lunch we had a little more conversation then it was time to get going. First we took a couple pictures of our first date so we would remember where our love began. We can rely on love, especially the love of God because He is love. If we live to love we are in Him and He is in us (1 Jn. 4:16). As we made our way to the elevator we heard the song “If You Could Only See” by Tonic. Let us not forsake the love we had at first for God, our spouse or for others (Rev. 2:4).

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Lord I ask that you take us back to the first time we felt your love and knew that you were calling us to be saved. Your love was calling out to us so that for the rest of our lives we could love others in many different ways. Help us to never forsake you or the love we had for you at first. When we love others God help us to think on how to give our love to them not only on how they love us back. To get love means we are willing to sacrifice parts of ourselves in order give love first. If we willingly become last Lord we trust that you will lift us up when the time is right. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

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Posted by on 01/30/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 468

Tuesday’s Torch

01/23/18

By: Tim Sader

A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great. (Proverbs 18:16)

When we were getting to know eachother Sammy and I seemed to talk about everything. I learned all her favorite things and found out she was becoming my favorite. Each of us can be the favorites of the Lord because He is fair to us all when we make Him part of our lives. Soon the holidays were upon us and we had kept our developing relationship a secret. We wanted to figure things out before including others because we didn’t know how it was all going to work out. Thanksgiving came soon after we began talking. That day we had some brief conversations about turkey and all the fixings but spent the day with our loved ones. It was one of the first days we didn’t chat for several hours and neither of us were too happy about that. After that we didn’t miss a day chatting for a while, flirting with one another and talking more about everything. Christmas was fast approaching and we both wanted to do something special to celebrate our journey thus far. So a few days before Christmas we exchanged gifts and they both arrived within 24 hours of eachother. She bought me a book for Kindle called “A More Excellent Way” by Henry Wright and I bought her a silver butterfly necklace with a purple crystal because that’s her favorite color. This was the first physical expression of the feelings we had for one another that might have been noticeable to our families. Buying gifts for someone we hadn’t met in person yet might have seemed wrong to some people but for us it felt like we were making progress. Though neither of us had said much to family and friends about one another we had a tangible gift letting us know we had started something great. These gifts may only have been around 20 dollars each but they represented our willingness to pay a price to be in this relationship. We had no idea this gift was opening a way for us to be in the great presence of each other in less than a month and that our future would be wrapped up in one another.

It is neat to me that a gift has a way to usher the giver into the presence of the great. At that time in my life there was one thing I wanted more than anything else and that was to meet Sammy in person. Being in the same place and enjoying her company was the greatest thing I could dream to do at that time. An amazing thing to me is that as humans we can be so evil at times yet we know how to give good gifts to those we care about. What is more amazing is how much more the Heavenly Father will give good gifts to us when we ask Him (Mt. 7:11). With gifts they say it is the thought that counts but there are bad things that no one would want as a gift. If I had given Sammy spiders as a gift we probably never would have made it to our first date. We all entered into sin by the trespass of one man, Adam, so it makes sense that the gift of God’s grace brings us justification through the sacrifice of one man, Jesus Christ. By the trespass of one, death reigned through him, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant grace and the gift of righteousness reign in life through Jesus Christ (Rom. 5:15-17)! Because the gifts Sammy and I exchanged were good we received them like they were and good things followed because of our exchange. The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord (Rom. 6:23). As men we are told to be considerate as we live with our partners who might not be as tough as us. They are co heirs with us in this gracious gift of life and we must treat them with respect so that nothing will hinder our prayers (1 Pt. 3:7). Sammy and I had thoughts about where we wanted our relationship to go but had no idea if we could ever get it there. The only way we partake in this marriage today is because we both have chosen Christ and the Lord thought to give us a gift that is our relationship with one another.

Lord we ask that you would help us to understand the value of giving gifts to others. We remember that gifts speak to the one receiving it; they open up ways for us to be in the precense of the great. Help us to see that we are all great in the eyes of God so that when we give it is best for them. Most of all God may we remember that you have given us the ultimate gifts of grace, righteousness and eternal life when you sent us your only begotten Son. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 01/23/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 467

Tuesday’s Torch

01/16/18

By: Tim Sader

The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” (Luke 1:28)

Before meeting Sammy I went through a difficult breakup then my brother graduated to heaven and I put up a wall because loving others felt dangerous. Sammy and the Lord after many prayers turned my wall into dust so I could love again. Our relationship I knew would not be the easiest one in the world. We have the same pressures of any relationship but also have disabilities limiting us while we are together. Plus we rely on others to help us so we need them with us during dates. We cannot drive and we lived 200 miles from one another so it was a big deal every time we hung out. Both of us being in wheelchairs made every step more difficult for us but it is all worth it when we achieve our relationship goals. Everything for us is different than a relationship for able bodied people. Our first serious conversation was about not worrying what this will look like and being open to doing things that don’t look normal. Before we got there however all we could do was chat on facebook and eventually talk on the phone. At first we talked every day online and the days we missed talking felt unbearable to us. The first two months between making plans on how to meet I think we talked about everything. I learned her favorite candies are Starbursts, Skittles, Reese’s peanut cups and gummy bears. She likes a lot of the same foods as me; tacos are her favorite and I like them too. We both like pizza, baked mac & cheese, turkey subs, burgers, sushi, cube steak with gravy and mashed potatoes. She likes reading, watching movies and TV series marathons, listing to music, volunteering, hanging out and going to church. We both like all kinds of music; she leans more toward country where I go with rock but we like many of the same songs. The movies I like she likes also and vice versa. Her favorite movie is A Walk to Remember, I like it to but the ending is hard to watch. She was watching Gilmore Girls when we started talking. It is one of her favorites and to her surprise I could tell because her quirkiness and quick wits reminded me of the show. She has many talents that I have loved from the get go. Talents like fast reading, humor, brightening people’s day, giving back rubs and scratches. I can’t seem to get enough of those. We talked about everything but this was just the first layer of the great conversations we would have.

Many people who are facing difficult situations feel like their best days have passed and all the plans they had were ruined. We must not give up on having a desire in our heart to do good things even if they look different than our original plans. Desire turns our darkest night into the light of day (Job 17:11-12). Before I knew Sammy when my brother was alive and I was dating someone else I had my own plans but when it all fell apart I was devestated. After Sammy broke through to my heart I had a new desire and we brought so much light back into each others lives so that we can laugh again. Both of us have had serious health problems in the past but love has done amazing things for us. When we delight in the Lord He will give us our hearts desire (Ps. 37:4). Maybe our trials and ruined plans are an opportunity to desire what the Lord has for us and it will be better than we could have done on our own. The Lord opens His hand and satisfies the desire of all living things (Ps. 145:16). When the angel appeared to Mary he greeted her and called her highly favored of the Lord. At some points in my life I have felt highly favored of the Lord that I felt like His favorite. To my surprise the Heavenly Father has no favorites. We can all be His favorite if we make Him part of our life. He judges or rewards us according to what we do. We should respect and honor Him since this life is temporary (1 Pt. 1:17). Our relationship with God stands out to us as the best thing we can share together. Beside Him Sammy quickly became my favorite thing and none of my other favorites come close to how much I care for her.

Lord help us in the areas of our life that feel anything but normal. Help us to work through our difficulties so that the desires of our heart will match the plans you have for us. We ask that the desires you placed inside of us would fill us with light and chase away the darkness. Lord help us to feel your presence with us and to live a life that is pleasing to you so we can be one of your favorites. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 01/16/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 466

Tuesday’s Torch

01/09/18

By: Tim Sader

You have broken through all his walls and reduced his strongholds to ruins. (Psalm 89:40)

From our first chat Sammy and I knew we had something special, it may not be normal but with the Lord on our team we are able to make it work. Since He is the foundation we are building on we can love one another and others like we should. Starting from first contact we will be continuing our story and together with my wife we will roll into the present. During the two years we were not communicating I lost my brother and kind of gave up on finding a girlfriend for a while. Sammy was busy going to school and trying to become a teacher so she had little time for chasing boys online. I also had some uncertainties about my health when I got down to 105 pounds. I did start seeking a relationship after about a year but was really just going through the motions to pass time and possibly ease some of the emptiness I felt after losing my brother. Sammy had also lost her mom a few years before Joe passed and was very unsure that she’d ever have a relationship or get married. During that time I communicated with a few girls but after an email or two and maybe a couple chats they seemed to fade away. Before losing Joe I had been getting over a previous relationship that went bad and ended too soon I thought at the time. These two losses back to back in a way made me afraid to love anyone because of the pain I went through physically and mentally from losing two of my loved ones. This caused me to build a wall around my heart so no one could get much further than a couple conversations without me hiding behind it and giving up on it until they moved on. I did go on one slightly awkward date when I started getting out of the house and pursuing life again. It didn’t work out because we never discussed taking it to the next level and we had differing schedules. I talked about meeting another girl after that but we also could never match up our schedules and she was scared of my disability. The wall I built had something to do with these relationships not working either. Now I know ultimately they didn’t work because someone very special to me was waiting to send me more questions at just the right time.

On November 19, 2013 I was on eHarmony for another trial weekend and there were essay questions from Sammy. I answered her right away and asked her some questions. She responded with some simple sweet answers. We never sent eHarmony mail because I left my email in the answers to her questions. Shortly after that I got a friend request on Facebook and we started talking on there. Like I said before we had no idea both of us were in wheelchairs so that was a surprise. I had thought about dating another disabled person because we would understand each other but Sammy always thought that would be too much extra stress. I was delighted when I saw Sammy for the first time I could tell she had the ability to light up a room. Her smile was contagious to me and it gave me feelings I had forgotten how to use. I was kind of scared to open up to her but at the same time I was completely helpless and was falling for her. I saw a story of a man whose girlfriend still married him after he suffered a major brain injury. She was sweet and I wanted to find a love like that. When I started talking to Sammy the wall I built around my heart was crumbling quickly. In a similar way the Lord wants to tear down the walls we’ve built around our hearts that still separate us from Him (Is. 25:12). We have been engraved in the palms of His hands. He sees the walls that we’ve built and only He can turn them to dust (Is. 49:16). When we accept the Lord in lives the spirit turns our heart of stone into a heart of flesh. We will be moved by the Spirit to do what is right by following what the Lord commanded us to do (Ez. 36:26-27).  Sammy and I believe that the Lord brought us together after many years of prayer and failed relationships. The Lord destroyed the wall I built so that he could bless me with the contagious smile that brought light back into my life.

Lord help us to understand that people come in and out of our lives for many reasons. We have no control when someone walks out on us or if they graduate to heaven. Help us God when hard times come not to put up a wall or let our heart be hardened. Hardship is only for a season but blessings will come if we will let Him turn our walls of negativity into ruins. Lord help us so that your Spirit can create in us a heart of flesh so that we can hear the Lord and properly follow Him. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 01/09/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 465

Tuesday’s Torch

01/02/18

By: Tim Sader

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22)

After the loss of my brother it took a while to get my mind and body to where I was ready to enjoy my life again. About two years later our van got smashed up and we needed a new one. My friend Julie helped make this happen when she planned a benefit to help us raise the money for a van. The love that God showed that year was incredible I can hardly believe it when I think about it. Getting a new van opened up a world of possibilities because we could safely travel longer distances than before. At the end of 2013 I was using eharmony and Samantha H. finally responded to my first questions after a few years. We quickly asked our own second questions and her responses really got my attention. What I remember most is that she knew the Lord and wanted me to know about the church she attends and what it means to her. Since I wasn’t a paying member I wanted her to be able to contact me off of eharmony so we exchanged emails and found eachother on facebook. To my surprise she was in a wheelchair like me and she was equally amazed to see I was disabled also. Neither of us ever considered dating another disabled person because it is difficult enough to start a relationship with only one person disabled. At the beginning of 2014 we both got someone to bring us to Columbia, SC the halfway point an hour and a half from both of us. We had pizza at Mellow Mushroom and we knew we would be more to us than we could dream of at that time. For Valentine’s Day I left my house after a rare snow storm to go see her three hours away in Summerville, SC. We did a few more dates in Columbia but those were never enough so mom and me made monthly trips for sometimes a week at a time so we could make long distance work. One time I surprised her when I rode three hours to go to the concert she was at. After thinking her friend was taking her out for the day I surprised her again at that coffee shop when I proposed to her there six months later in front of her family and friends.

I knew for a while before asking Sammy to marry me that I wanted to but since we were disabled I didn’t know how it would work or who would take care of us. After a few dates we noticed that nothing was normal about our relationship and that was what makes us beautiful. Later at Sammy’s church pastor Jenn preached a message that we don’t want to be what is normal so we will be alright. One of the most difficult parts of us getting married and moving to Charleston was leaving MorningStar church in Fort Mill. The Lord helped me by showing me unity between them and Ashley Ridge Church. Three times the same song would be played at one church or the other on the next Sunday after I heard it. I received words, heard similar messages at both churches and even a book I read came up in one of pastor Jenn’s sermons. I heard a message from Justin Perry about him and his wife being in a long distance relationship before getting married. They made it work and were twice as far from eachother as Sammy and I were of course neither of us drive so that’s an added person in the equation. All these were confirmation to me that I found what is good for me when I found my wife and the favor of the Lord is upon us. My friend Cliff gave me a word that Sammy and I are the two bottom corners of a triangle and the top point is the Lord, we are a team and He will be with us if we keep Him in it. No one can lay any foundation except for the one that has been laid, which is Jesus Christ (1 Cor. 3:11). If Jesus is our foundation then then our love for one another will be patient, kind, not envious, boastful, proud, disrespectful, selfish, angry or keeping score. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails but if we fail to love the gifts of the Spirit will not properly function (1 Cor. 13:4-8). Love has never failed for Sammy and me because we were married on April 11, 2015. We found a way to make not normal work for us thanks to supportive parents, our aides and Ashley Ridge Church family. Alone we can do very little but together we can do so much.

Lord I pray that 2018 will be the year we realize that life is all about you loving us, us loving you and loving others. If you have been less than our foundation Lord we invite you onto our team so that we can know that you are always with us. Help us to learn better love by loving the people better who we are closest to or by showing love to who we think is unlovable. Those who may be looking for a someday spouse I pray that steps will be taken in the right direction so they will be ready when they find who is good for them. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, on Facebook as Tuesdays Torch or Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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