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Tuesdays Torch week 480

Tuesday’s Torch

04/17/18

By: Tim Sader

They rose about daybreak, Samuel called to Saul on the roof, “Get ready, and I will send you on your way.” When Saul got ready, he and Samuel went outside. (1 Samuel 9:26)

The day Sammy came to my house in York we had a great engagement photo shoot and had a lot of people come and meet her in a 24 hour period. Having her at my house spoke to me, more than ever before I was together with my true love and nothing could separate us. A week after she came to me her dad and Darleen had an anniversary weekend out of town so Sammy asked if mom and I could come stay with her. When we got to Summerville it was Sunday afternoon we got a bite on our way there but at dinner we were ready for something good to eat. We decided to go eat dinner at Logan’s Steakhouse because they have good steak and things from the grill. At Logan’s they serve peanuts while people wait and there’s a bucket of them on each table. The peanut shells are disposed of on the floor so there is a certain amount of dust that seems to linger in the air. The first time we went there was on her class reunion weekend and I got choked up before we got to our table. I thought I just wasn’t feeling well that weekend since I got choked the next day also. This was our second time going there so I thought surely it was just a fluke last time and I would be fine since I don’t have any known peanut allergies or anything. Again while we were waiting I started feeling choked up by the time we got seated at our table. I ordered food and ate a little but the coughing really ruins my appetite when it happens. After that day we have gotten food from Logans but I am not willing to go inside because twice getting choked is enough for me. When we got back to Sammy’s house mom was getting my machine ready in the guest room and noticed we forgot my sleeping mask. We panicked for a little while but we got ahold of someone at the hospital and got a mask for my machine. The mask worked but was a different design. I used it that night but when I rolled on my back it sounded like a lot of water from the humidifier was in the hose and the mask. Needless to say I had to get up quick and usually it takes an hour or two to clear my head and throat. Shortly after getting up I felt chocked again because of all the moisture backing up on me. After breakfast we talked to respiratory at the hospital and got the right kind of mask which eased the stress on each of us.

Later that day I had to shake extra on my airway clearance system and we tried some Thia food but it was too spicy and I wasn’t hungry. That night I got some good sleep and didn’t wake up half drown. Sammy’s aide Kiki helped her get up and while she was getting ready mom worked on getting me out of bed and feeding me some eggs. After I ate we sat together until lunch time then we had to leave so mom could make it back for her writers group. Getting ready so we could again say goodbye was difficult but we knew thanksgiving was coming and we hoped we could be together again. God wants us to be ready for His command, when he gives us a message to speak we need not fear the crowd because God could give us something to be afraid of (Jer. 1:17). God has not asked us to prepare without Him for the help we need. There are hordes of angels around us wait to battle for us if we will command them to do so (Ez. 38:7). I think often times we forget to believe in the supernatural realm but it is just as real as the physical and we can make things happen there if we will speak into it through our prayers. We must always be prepared to preach the word in every season; correct, rebuke and encourage with great patience and careful instruction (2 Tim. 4:2). Sometimes we are the mouth piece of God in the circles that we influence this is why studying the word is so important. We need to know what to say and how to say it to reach a lost and hurting world. We want to know scripture in a way where we don’t just quote scripture but so our words to others agree with what we’ve learned. In our hearts we revere Christ as Lord and we should always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks the reason for the hope that we have. We must do this with gentleness and respect so others will see Christ in us (1 Pt. 3:15). Getting ready for the next step means thanksgiving is coming for new seasons in our lives.

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Lord help us to be ready at all times to speak according to your word into our circles so that others will know about you. Take away our fear of man Lord because man can do nothing like God could do to frighten us if we lost our respect for Him. Help us to put your word inside our heart so that when we speak that is what comes out. I pray we won’t forget to command the hordes when we pray. When we do talk about you God I ask that we show the world love through careful instruction, gentleness and respect. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

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Tuesdays Torch week 479

Tuesday’s Torch

04/10/18

By: Tim Sader

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Mark 10:9)

It was great getting to spend time with Sammy for her class reunion weekend because it was only a week after I was with her before. It was a struggle because we both felt sick but we went any way and had a good time. When I left her it was in a rush to get home but I learned that it’s never good to hurry along if it keeps us from what is more important. Unfortunately after going twice in September we were unable to travel to Summerville at all in October. Sammy tried so hard to find a way to come to York to celebrate my birthday on the forth but no one was able to bring her to me. This was very sad for her because we wanted to be together like we were for her birthday that year. Since she couldn’t make it in October she found a way to me in November when her dad and Darleen were coming past our town to go to a wedding in North Carolina. She knew for a few weeks that she’d be coming and we wanted to get better engagement pictures so we planned that for this 24 hour quick trip. That Saturday we both put on the same outfits we wore on our actual engagement so we’d be ready to go when she got here. She got to my house at 12:30 that day and we left to meet my friend Cammie at MorningStar around 2:30 so she could take our pictures. MorningStar Church meets at what used to be Heritage USA hotel and confrence center so there’s all kinds of neat areas that make for good pictures. We took pictures with artwork, stained glass window wall, near the trolley on Main Street, a balcony overlooking it, in the library and the beautiful courtyard. Our photo shoot lasted for two hours and was a lot of fun on a cold rainy day in November. After we left there we went and picked up some wings and introduced Sammy to the Anderson family before going back to our house. That night our friends Melina, Ronnie and Kelly stopped by to meet Sammy and hang out for a little while. After everyone left we got ready for bed and slept in the guestroom together. When we woke up she got up and ready first then I got up and had a bite to eat. Janet and Erica came later that morning to meet Sammy. Her dad came at 12:30, him and Darleen stayed and we all had a nice conversation for about an hour before baby had to go.

We accomplished a lot in a very short time but we finally got to be together at my house and that was great. After a month of not seeing one another when we finally had a chance to be together we learned how important just one day could be. Through these photos at the church I was attending I felt more than ever before that God brought us together and nothing would separate us. Sammy and I glorify the Lord; together we exalt His holy name (Ps. 34:3). Our relationship with God is most important and I didn’t think of this at the time but doing our pictures at church was one way for us to include Him in our engagement. It is a good and pleasant thing when God’s people live together in unity (Ps. 133:1). The Lord loves when believers are united together through marriage and in relationship with eachother. In the early church believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to the needy. They continued meeting together in the temple and in their homes they ate together with glad and sincere hearts. They praised God together enjoying the favor of all the people and the Lord added new believers each day (Acts 2:44-47). In Christ the building is joined together to become a holy temple in the Lord. In Him we are built together so that we become a dwelling in which God lives by His Spirit (Eph. 2:21-22). Together we are a sacred temple of God and if anyone tries to destroy His temple they will be destroyed (1 Cor. 3:17). There are many important virtues for us to live by such as patience, kindness, humility and gentleness that help us when we are together with others. More important than these is love it binds us together in perfect unity (Col. 3:14). Because of real love Sammy and I have a great time together be it just a day or the rest of our lives.

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Lord help us to do life right with others and let nothing keep us from living together in perfect unity. Help us to remember that we are built into a temple by Christ with others so that we offer proper support to those we are connected with. When a brother or sister is in need I ask that we would be willing to step up and be the first one to help them. I ask that we would keep our temple clean by living wholesome lives and by showing love to everyone in our lives. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Tuesdays Torch week 478

Tuesday’s Torch

04/03/18

By: Tim Sader

But you, Daniel, keep this prophecy a secret; seal up the book until the time of the end, when many will rush here and there, and knowledge will increase. (Daniel 12:4)

In September after our short time together when we got engaged I wanted to make it up by staying a full week in September. On this trip we tried finding a wedding venue but none of them felt right so we put that on hold. Christ prepared a place and made a way for us to experience the love of God forever if we will make Him Lord of our lives. After a whole week together we thought we wouldn’t see eachother until the next month. The thing is Sammy’s ten year class reunion was a week later and she really wished I could be there with her. Come to find out her twin sister didn’t care about the reunion and made plans to be out of town that weekend. That opened up their house for that weekend so we were able to stay there again so I would be able to come and go to the reunion with her. When we got into town on Friday we went to Sammy’s dad’s house for dinner. We had roasted chicken, noodles and broccoli then went over to Amanda’s house to stay for the weekend. That night we watched some TV and I slept in the same bed with Sammy again. The next day we went ahead and put on our dress clothes so we wouldn’t have to change into them later. Changing clothes is a lot hassle for us and caregivers so generally speaking disabled people put on clothes and wear them all day even if its fancy evening wear for later. Sammy wore a white and aqua chevron striped dress and I wore kakis with a striped polo shirt. We got some food from Perkins for Breakfast and Chick-fil-A for a late lunch. After we ate Sammy got a sick stomach and felt nauseous, I think this made me nervous so I started coughing. We really struggled that afternoon and honestly didn’t know if we’d make it to the reunion or not. Sammy took some medicine for her stomach and I shook on my airway clearance system then drank some water and got myself calmed down. Neither of us was perfect when it was time to leave but we pulled it together enough so that we could go to the reunion for a few hours. The reunion was at the club house of a golf course near her sister’s house so it was easy to get there. They had a lot of nice hors d’oeuvres and a bar to order beverages, we weren’t well enough to have anything accept water and a little punch. It was great seeing Sammy reminisce: I enjoyed meting her school friends and hearing stories about how they were impacted by her friendship. I felt odd since I was feeling bad and wondered if people were getting the wrong impression of me and if they thought we should get married or not.

I know that kind of thinking was silly but when I am ill I have a difficult time thinking anything positive. It didn’t ultimately matter what they thought because we are trusting God to make this work and inspite of our health concerns together with Him things work out. When we got back to Sammy’s sister’s house it was getting late so we got ready for bed. I used my airway clearence system again because I still felt a bit congested before laying down. On my breathing mask at night I have a way to cough stuff up so by morning congestion from the previous day doesn’t bother me again. At that time I thought talking while doing this made it worse so it made that night a little odd for Sammy and me but we cuddled up and just dealt with it. Since then I learned it was a silly made up rule and it makes no difference if I talk or not. The next morning we got up feeling much better but our morning was rushed because a friend needed mom and me to sit with their son and we had five hours to get lunch and drive four hours. We left Sammy’s sister’s house and picked up some Burger King on our way to drop her off at her dad’s house. In Daniel he sees a vision of the end times and sees many people rushing around in a world with increased knowledge. Compared to ancient Babylon modern times would seem overwhelmingly hurried. Often we walk about like zombies in our own little world rushing around heaping up wealth so someone else can spend it after we pass on (Ps. 39:6). We really just need to slow down and remember what is truly important. The time has come for us to wake up because the day of our salvation is near. We must no longer be in the fog with all our knowledge and dark deeds; instead we must clothe ourselves in the light of our Lord Jesus Christ not in satisfying our flesh (Rom. 13:11-14). To do this we think about what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable—anything that is excellent or praiseworthy (Phil. 4:8). We had a very sad rushed goodbye and we vowed to never do another one like it because our relationship is worth putting more time into.

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Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Tuesdays Torch week 477

Tuesday’s Torch

03/27/18

By: Tim Sader

The kingdom of heaven is like a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son. (Matthew 22:2)

At the beginning of August I popped the question at the coffee shop where I surprised her one time before. After she said yes we only were able to spend a few short days together before I had to go home and get ready for a family retreat mom and I signed up for many months sooner. We felt jipped that our time together after such a milestone had to be cut short with these prior obligations. Joni and Friends family retreat was quite an experience for us, we had some fun but I was mostly missing my new fiancé and I told everyone about her. Just a few weeks after coming home from camp I made plans for to go see Sammy again. I made reservations at Intown Suites where we paid for an entire week. This trip was mostly for pleasure but we also wanted to get a head start on wedding plans by finding a venue and scheduling a caterer. When I first got into town mom and I checked in at our hotel then went to Sammy and her dad’s house for dinner. That night we had spaghetti dinner with her family and hung out in her bedroom until we had to go back to the hotel that night. The next day we hung out more in Sammy’s room holding hands and cuddling up to watch Dawsons Creek. Sometime that day her phone case broke so that evening we went to Verizon to find a new one. After that we went to a Japanese Steakhouse where we sat at the hibachi grill and watched them make it live. We dropped Sammy off at home after that and went back to the hotel to get sleep before church in the morning. We got up early, ate a few bites then went to Sammy’s and followed them to church. When we got out we went back to her house and had leftover spaghetti for lunch followed by more Dawson until dinner. We all ate Bojangles chicken and sides that night and enjoyed family time at the table. That Monday we started with the wedding planning; we looked up some caterers and set up a call back for the following day. The rest of the day we watched more Dawsons Creek and had Zaxbys for dinner. On Tuesday I wrote the Torch in Sammy’s room and the caterer called, they quoted us 2 to 3 thousand dollars. That night Sammy’s dad made a beef roast with gravey, corn and potatoes. The next day it was rainy so we had a couple meals at home and finally finished the Dawsons Creek marathon that seemed to last forever.

On our last 2 days together we had to get busy with preparations for the wedding we were planning for the following spring. Thursday after lunch at Oscars we went to the military base to check out a venue called the Redbank Club. They had different prices and packages to accommodate various weddings. It was like 5 thousand dollars for what we wanted but that didn’t include food. Before going there we tried the Shriners Club twice but it was closed. They called us later so the next day after eating at Ryan’s we went out to it again at 3 p.m. In the bible it says the kingdom of heaven is like a king preparing a wedding for his son. When preparing for a wedding if money was no obstacle most people would want it to be the best of everything. The kingdom of heaven is the best of everything. Those who choose Christ are blessed to inherit the kingdom prepared for them from the beginning (Mt. 25:34). Christ said there are many rooms in the Fathers house and He was going to prepare it for us. When He’s through He will come back again so we can go with Him again to that place. By Him is the way we get there (Jn. 14:2-4). We cannot see, hear or conceive what God has prepared for us who love Him (1 Cor. 2:9). God is good to all mankind so there is no limit to the love he shows His loved ones. We are the handiwork of God, created in Christ to do the good works He prepared for us to do (Eph. 2:10). Both places we looked at were nice and would work for us but inspite of or best preparations something better was in the works for our perfect wedding.

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Lord I ask that we would be busy doing the good works you prepared for us to do. There is no limit to your love for us God so help us to not put limits on you because of our unbelief. Lord we know that you already have the best of everything so help us to live our lives so that we are worthy to inherit everything your son prepared for us when He went away. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 03/27/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 476

Tuesday’s Torch

03/20/18

By: Tim Sader 

The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. “Have you seen the one my heart loves?” (Song of Songs 3:3)

In July Sammy and I were able to spend about five days together at her house while her dad was out of town. We didn’t do much on this trip except have quality time because it was so hot out. The world says that sex is love but we know this is not true because our love is very strong and it’s not about what we can do between the sheets. Love is providing for each others needs and protecting one another from harm. There are a few opinions when two disabled people date. One is that it’s cute and others feel it’s gross and makes no sense. Even in the disabled community it is uncommon because if one person is fully able it helps in so many obvious ways. Sammy wasn’t looking for someone in a chair and I had never been in a relationship with anyone disabled. For so long we listened to the notion of others but after meeting there was no way for us to deny our feelings. We wouldn’t listen to the voices so after our July trip I got busy looking for a ring and planning our engagement. I thought about a flash mob, showing up at her church on a random Sunday or taking her to MDA camp to show the kids dreams come true. None of these seemed original to me then I remembered when I surprised her for a concert at Coastal Coffee Roasters. Somehow I knew I wanted to drop the magic of surprise in the same place again but had to figure out how to get her there. At the beginning of August I decided I wanted to plan a day for her without me so I contacted her friend Kim because I knew she took Sammy out sometimes. I told her my thoughts and we brainstormed. I wanted to send them to lunch where their food mysteriously got payed for. I wanted them to watch a movie about owls together or just hang out and then end up at the coffee shop. Come to find out Kim knows the owner and had some paperwork to give him so that would get them to Coastal.

After getting her beautiful aquamarine and diamond ring what I was about to do started to set in and I was getting excited. After Kim helped me figure out a date and time I wanted to share this memory with Sammy’s close friends and family. This was a special day for everyone in her life because they didn’t know if it would ever happen. When the day arrived I had to leave home and travel four hours while she had her day with Kim. I had to watch the time so I got there before everyone to set things up. The flowers were delivered to the coffee shop so that was a big helped. My friends Bobby and Ashley met me there so they could take pictures and a video of the proposal. They helped me not feel nervous or jittery while we waited for everyone to show up. I wrote out the proposal on a card and leaned it against the bouquet of girbber daisies with the ring box underneath. After what seemed to be a long wait her van finally pulled up. I was hoping Sammy would dressed up that day because I asked a news reporter to come and do a story about us. I was excited and wanted to share my happiness with others. That day started with lunch but instead of the movie they had a salon day and shopping to get Sammy a nicer blouse. When they got there Kim had to help change the shirt in the van which felt weird to Sam because she never helped like that before. Finally the moment arrived, the door began to open and she rolled in. She said, “Timmy what are you doing here and why are all these people here?” I told her to come over to the table because I had something for her. When she pulled up at the table she read the note and when she finished I said so will you marry me? She said yes then we drank some wine to celebrate while waiting for the reporter who missed the proposal. Luckily we had a recording so she used some of it in her news piece. After our surprise interview we hung out with family and friends until we went to Sammy’s dads house for dinner.

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Lord I ask that when the watchmen find us that they would see our life is about loving you and doing your will. The watchers may have ideas and think that we are being silly with the decisions we make. It is not a matter about how things look. It is about sticking to our ideals and going where God leads. Help us to do this better God. Help us to stop following the crowd so we can fit in because you have called us to stand out. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 03/20/2018 in Torches

 

Tuesdays Torch week 475

Tuesday’s Torch

03/13/18

By: Tim Sader

Whoever heeds life-giving correction will be at home among the wise. (Proverbs 15:31)

Sammy and I had a day date at the beginning of the month and a whole week together later in June. One day that week we spent the day in downtown Charleston eating lunch and going to the museum. With more quality time together we were able to confront the difficult aspects of relationship and disability but we also learned that love is enough overcome our fears. In July there was no day date in Columbia but later in the month Sammy’s dad and Darlene had to go to Pennsylvania and she needed someone to stay with her. Again this was a great opportunity for us to be together in a month where there wasn’t any funding for a hotel. We got to Summerville a few hours after her dad left for the trip. We didn’t have much planned this time; we enjoy going out but sometimes it was nice to have time together alone inside the house. Sammy gets hot easily so in the July she would rather be cool at home than out somewhere getting overheated. We are funny because she hates the heat and I can’t stand being cold so one of us or the other is usually uncomfortable. Couples with this difference know it is no small hurdle to jump in a relationship. We have found ways to make inside work for us meaning we keep the temperature as high as she can handle and I use a space heater and a blanket. I am one of those people who is under a blanket in summer when it’s 100 degrees out because the A/C inside is cold. So yeah whenever I would visit I was always under my blanket so we could have July time inside. I don’t remember a lot about this trip except one day we had pizza and when no one was in the room her dog knocked it off the table and ate the rest of it. For entertainment we sat around watching our Dawsons Creek marathon while holding hands and sitting close to each other aka wheelchair cuddling. At night we got to lay close in bed for real cuddles a couple nights while I was there so that was nice. Falling asleep and night cuddles is our closest intimate time, often it is the best time of day for both of us. Looking back this trip seemed uneventful but we were wise to do life together and learning about each other was an important milestone in building our relationship.

I don’t know how to say this without saying it so I’m just going to go there. Sammy and I chose not to have sexual contact until we were married or very close to it. That being said sexual contact is very limited with both of us being disabled the way we are. Most people would say there is no real sex happening and they would mostly be right. Even without that our love for one another has been described as much deeper, genuine, inspiring and contagious. One time I heard author Josh McDowell speak about love and he said the world defines love as sex. As I have found out and will go as far as saying is that love has very little if nothing to do with sex. Sometimes we express our love for a spouse with sexual acts but all sex is not making love. One of the best things I have learned is that loving someone intimately is a choice not something that happens between the sheets. If sex is the only way a significant other shows their love I wonder if they truly love the other. McDowell went on to say that most people can tell you something about love but cannot define it. In the bible a hint to the definition is husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. If he loves his wife he also loves himself because no one hates their own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church (Ep. 5:28-29). We provide for ourselves mentally, physically, spiritually and relationally. We also cherish ourselves by protecting ourselves from what is harmful. Most simply McDowell said love can be defined in a few words, to provide and protect. To fulfill the law of God we love others like ourselves by providing for their needs and protecting them from harm (Gal. 5:14). By having July time inside we had the opportunity to see each other’s needs and what providing them looks like. Our physical needs are provided by others but still we protect by seeing those needs are properly met by them. In times like these we learned to provide and protect; we learned to love.

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Lord I ask that we will be at home among the wise help us to heed their life giving instructions to shape our lives in a way that is pleasing to you. That being said help us not to define our love for others using crude acts that may or may not have anything to do with love. Help us to choose love because we want to love them like they are our own body. We ask that you would help us to properly provide and protect for everyone who our lives come into contact with. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Tuesdays Torch week 474

Tuesday’s Torch

03/06/18

By: Tim Sader

Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. (Colossians 3:14)

With her sister going out of town for six days Sammy and I were able to borrow the house so we could see eachother. While we were there we went to the beach one day where I was reminded of how much greater God is than our biggest problems. In June we started the month with a date in Columbia where we had food at Zoe’s Kitchen and saw a movie The Fault in Our Stars. It was about two teens who were battling cancer falling in love and one of them checks out of life rather unexpectedly. It was sad in an obvious way but it was also beautiful because they were able to fall in love and enjoy what little time they had. It felt a lot like our situation with eachother and helped us confront some of the rather unfortunate aspects of our disabilities. At the end of the day being happy and inlove for a while is better than not loving because of fearing the unknown. God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, love and self-discipline (2 Tim. 1:7). A movie date wasn’t enough for us to last the whole month. While looking online I found a pay by the week hotel that was about the same price as only four or five days at a regular hotel so I made a reservation. It was exciting getting to spend another full week with my love so much that she was in my dreams again. After check in at the hotel we went to Sammy’s house where she was hanging out by the pool with her nephew Zachary. That night he went with us to meet Amanda and Alicia at The Icehouse for dinner on the patio. It was good as it always is and after dinner we brought Sammy back home and headed back hotel. We had to be up early and head to downtown Charleston with Sammy, her sister and Alicia. After getting parked we made our way down a bumpy brick alley way in our wheelchairs and went to Rue de Jean for lunch. The food was good than we went a few blocks away to The Charleston Museum where I learned a lot about the history in this area. After driving around Battery Park and seeing the beautiful old houses Sammy and I went to the hotel. We finished the day with Bojangles and watched Meet the Fockers before bringing her back home.

That Sunday we went to church and learned to be careful what we ask for than we had a cook out with family. After that we watched a couple Fast and Furious movies and went for icecream at Ye Ole Fashioned that evening. For some time I had been thinking of talking to Sammy’s dad about buying her an engagement ring and when we got back he was outside at his boat. I was slightly afraid of her dad because he is quiet but Sammy said didn’t I need to talk to him so I had to face my fear. I told him that I loved his daughter and wanted to spend my life with her and asked if he’d be okay with me buying her a ring. He said it would be fine and warned me that it would be hard for us to make it work but I could give it a shot. I had no idea when or how I would get the ring and how to pop the question but I knew I wanted to and now I could. The rest of the week after that was pretty laid back, we continued our Dawsons Creek marathon and had Chineese, Chick-fil-A, Pizza Hut and some other meals made at home. On Thursday that week Sammy and her aide went with us to Ryan’s for lunch and afterwards Sammy brought me to meet her mommy at the cemetery. I told her I wanted to marry her daughter, I love her so much and would take great care of her. For the longest time I was afraid to love but after meeting my Samantha I was clothed in love and we still have a perfect harmony together. This is how the Lord wants us to love everytime we chose to do so. We know how much God loves us and we trust His love because He is love. If we live in love we live in God and He lives in us. As we live in God our love grows more so we are not afraid of His judgment but can go to Him with confidence because we choose to live like Christ in the world. This love has no fear because perfect love casts out fear. If we are afraid it is because we don’t want to be punished and we haven’t fully experienced His perfect love (1 John 4:16-18). The love Sammy and I share helped us confront things that are hard and with the Lord on our team our love can overcome many things. After our farewell trademark lunch from Taco Bell we had to part again but that time our future together was starting to feel more certain.

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Lord it is so great how very much you love us. Help us to see that there is a pattern in our relationships and if they are successful we notice that it all comes back to love. Thank you for loving us God and making it so we can love like you. Please perfect your love in us so that we can aproach you with confidence without being afraid of you punishing us. And just like we punish children to train them we only do it because of love that is the only reason God would discipline us. Clothe us in love God so that we may be in perfect harmony with others. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tuesdays Torch has been viewed in countries all across the globe through our website and social media. We pray the words of every Torch will sink into the hearts and minds of readers. Please share Tuesdays Torch and encourage others with it. To partner with Tuesdays Torch and help expand our reach please contact us. We pray the Lord will touch our readers. All of what Christ did was so we would believe. He told us not to believe because of what He said but in what He did (John 14:11). Every Tuesday we talk about what He did and is still doing. The best thing God’s done is send His Son so we could be saved (John 3:16). If anyone is not a believer we pray they will invite the Lord into their lives by asking Him to forgive their sins and believing that He is the Son of God. Please share testimonies, feedback or encouraging words by email at: tuesdaystorch@gmail.com we enjoy hearing from you. Look out for next Tuesdays Torch on our website http://www.tuesdaystorch.com , by email, Facebook and Twitter @tuesdaystorch Thanks and God Bless!

No one lights a lamp and hides it in a clay jar or puts it under a bed. Instead, they put it on a stand, so that those who come in can see the light. Luke 8:16

 
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Posted by on 03/06/2018 in Torches